Excerpts from letter
written January 13, 1999
Most parents, when thinking
of moving to homeschooling from institutional schooling, consider the academic
items.
I think most kids, when considering
moving to homeschooling, think of the social items.
Don't forget to line-up social
and emotional support for your child.
There are kids in our homeschool
group that started participating in our activities before they had actually
left school. When my son experimented with institutional school for
seven weeks, we tried to stay involved with our homeschool friends.
This was harder than expected because the homework that institutional school
required was so time consuming.
I would think it would be
easier for a child to leave the comfort of the known environment, if he
already had friends that were homeschooling. If there were some great
homeschool activities planned during the day that he couldn't attend because
institutional school conflicted with them, I would consider letting him
miss school to try a couple.
When people join our homeschool
group they receive the phone list of other members and a newsletter.
It is not required that one be a homeschooler to join. On our phone
lists the first name and year of birth of the kids. I have found
that it is easier to break into a group if I already have a couple of friends
on the inside to introduce me to the others. I would suggest joining
a homeschool support group in your area and calling some parents with children
of a similar age as your grandson, and setting up a meeting.
Our group has subgroups that
would be less intimidating to break into then meeting the whole group at
one time.
Much to my chagrin, my son,
at age 6, preferred to play with me at homeschool parkdays. We kept
attending, but it wasn't until after he was in a homeschool play production
with four other homeschoolers, and he made friends, that he actually
enjoyed parkday. The group size and the common interests made all
the difference.
Extra curricular activities:
One bonus of homeschooling is the extra time it allows children to follow
their interests and talents. Band was one of the reasons my son wanted
to try institution school. He hated the idea of leaving band, so
I lined up a private tutor for an instrument he preferred to learn (the
chanter). He wasn't allowed to begin lessons until after he left
the institutional school. There is a private school in our area that
allows homeschoolers to participate in their band class.
Homeschool provides more
options than institutional school, but it requires a much larger investment
in time and effort on the part of the homeschooling family. The effort
to find or create the options and the increased commuting time that may
be involved.
I think of homeschooling
as private schooling. Private schools have a whole marketing department
to make their school look attractive to potential students. Market
your homeschool to your reluctant child. That includes finding the
things that would appeal to your child.
Remember, most students are
reluctant when they are to move from elementary school to middle school,
and from middle school to high school. Even if they are looking forward
to the change there is a certain amount of apprehension.
Multiply that fear by the
fact that the newly homeschooled child will no longer see their institutional-school
friends everyday, and you can understand their hesitancy.
Trying to stay involved in
some manner with those friends during the transition may be helpful.
It is difficult. I remember how often I saw my good friends after
I graduated from high school. Without that daily contact friends
drifted away, no matter the promises to stay in touch.
Depending on the age of the
child, neighborhood sports leagues, and scouting groups, might be an avenue
to keep those school contacts open.
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